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Foundations to Marriage Success, Part III

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“First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage.”

Thus ends the old schoolyard rhyme.  Though we may not have realized it at the time, this rhyme contains a proven method of lowering your probability of divorce.  We’ve already seen how a strong financial foundation and some maturity both improve the chances of enjoying a life-long marriage.  Today, continuing our look at this report, we learn that having the first child than 7 months after the wedding decreases the risk of divorce by 24%, when compared to those whose first child comes before this mark. Continue reading →

Each did what was right in his own eyes . . .

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A surprising new study reveals that casual sex may not cause emotional or psychological damage.

via Casual sex, hookups aren’t emotionally damaging, study finds.

While the headline says, “aren’t emotionally damaging,” the study actually says, “may not cause emotional damage.”  That, coupled with the fact this is a small study of a group in one state makes me wonder why the definite headline?  Also further on we read,

However, researchers said that this doesn’t mean casual sex is for everyone – and Eisenberg is quick to warn of the physical consequences of casual sex. Rates of sexually transmitted diseases continue to increase and teen pregnancy rates in Minnesota in particular are also on the rise, according to the Star Tribune.

So, there is damage–just not emotional.  And that, I guess, makes it okay.  Or maybe, it just illustrates our willingness to excuse and justify sinful behavior.

Your Sin Will Find You Out

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Tiger Woods TV Ads Disappear After Reports of Affairs Update2 – Bloomberg.com.

I’m a bit late to the ball on this one, but Tiger’s travails provide an excellent illustration of a key Christian concept. Your sin will find you out (Numbers 32.23).

Tiger lacks integrity.  He presented one public persona while he was really a different person.  In his apology he even stated,

he let his family down with “transgressions” and hasn’t been true to his “family values.”

Now he is paying the consequences of his actions.  Lost contracts, ruined reputation, etc.  This should be a warning to those who believe they can hide their sin.  Sure, we can hide it for a time, but eventually our sins are known.  Perhaps we’d do well to consider the consequences of our secret sins, if they were to become public.  Then, maybe, we’d find repentance and grace to heal us.